My young friend tweeted again. This time it was a “selfie” of a middle-teen loaded down with overnight bags. The girl was turned toward the bathroom vanity as if to ensure she wasn’t leaving any pertinent items behind. The caption read to this effect: “the life of a child of divorce”. So in keeping of my promise to my sister in the Lord to warn us all of the heartbreak of divorce, I will share what a more mature friend of mine shared just this past week.
My girlfriend is a grandmother, a proud grandmother who married at the age of 17 and renewed her vows with the love of her youth just two years ago. It is inspiring to see her devotion and love to her spouse and his to her. She was asking me of another mutual friend, whom she devised left her husband via photos on Facebook. We mourned together the twenty plus year marriage and the heartache of the children. She told me, “My parents divorced, and it still hurts.” Her dad has even left this earth and gone to his eternal reward. And she tells me, “It still hurts.”
If you wonder why I am writing on divorce again today, in part it is to remind me that those differences with my spouse I think are so intolerable are not quite so in light of my children’s futures. You see I don’t want to make their walk on this sin filled earth any harder. I speak the Words of God to them, and the importance and preeminence of His ways. I don’t want to break those laws in their sight or His. I don’t want them to think for a minute that I don’t believe the principles in the Book of Life. So today I am writing to lay some stones of remembrance as the Israelites did as they crossed the Jordan. Divorce hurts, for forever. My witness pays. My children pay. I pay. The Kingdom pays. It is not a winsome choice.
May we all be satisfied with the spouse of our youth!
Burning within me,
15Drink water from your own cistern,
running water from your own well.
16Should your springs overflow in the streets,
your streams of water in the public squares?
17Let them be yours alone,
never to be shared with strangers.
18May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
20Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife?
Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?
21For your ways are in full view of the Lord,
and he examines all your paths.
22The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare them;
the cords of their sins hold them fast.
23For lack of discipline they will die,
led astray by their own great folly.
Again, I write not to condemn. If you are a divorced, God loves you! He has a plan for your life. He has never and will never leave you.